Relationship Red Flag Checker
Paste a message thread or describe a situation and get a balanced read on the green flags, red flags and unclear signals, plus thoughtful questions and next steps, without judgments or diagnoses.
How the relationship red flag checker works
Paste a chat, text exchange or a description of what has been happening with a partner, date, friend or coworker. Remove names and private details first. Pick a length and send. The tool returns a neutral summary, healthy signs, concerning patterns with the exact behavior quoted, ambiguous signals with possible explanations, questions to reflect on and suggested next steps, including when to talk with someone you trust.
Tips for the best results
Include context, like how long you have known the person and whether this behavior is new or repeated, because patterns matter more than single moments. Share both sides of the conversation, not just the parts that upset you. Use the result as a starting point for reflection, not a final verdict. If you ever feel unsafe, contact local emergency services or a domestic abuse helpline.
FAQ
Can this tool tell me if my partner is toxic?
It cannot judge a person or diagnose anyone. It points out healthy and concerning behaviors in what you share and helps you think them through. A trusted person or counselor can offer a fuller view.
What if I feel unsafe?
If you are in danger or being threatened, contact local emergency services right away. A domestic abuse helpline in your area can also offer confidential support and help with safety planning.
Is this for teenagers?
It is designed for adults. If a younger user shares a situation, it keeps advice to general healthy-friendship guidance and encourages talking with a parent, teacher, school counselor or another trusted adult.